“I heard police or ambulancemen, standing in our house, say, “She must have provoked him,” or, “Mrs Stewart, it takes two to make a fight.” They had no idea. The truth is my mother did nothing to deserve the violence she endured. She did not provoke my father, and even if she had, violence is an unacceptable way of dealing with conflict. Violence is a choice a man makes and he alone is responsible for it.”
No but there’s this one interview where he says basically “People won’t listen to you or take you seriously unless you’re an old white man, and since I’m an old white man I’m going to use that to help the people who need it”
This guy is amazing.
TW: domestic violence
You can stop pretending that guns protect women now.
Early last year, after a series of frightening encounters with her former husband, Stephanie Holten went to court in Spokane, Wash., to obtain a temporary order for protection.
Her former husband, Corey Holten, threatened to put a gun in her mouth and pull the trigger, she wrote in her petition. He also said he would “put a cap” in her if her new boyfriend “gets near my kids.” In neat block letters she wrote, “ He owns guns, I am scared.”
The judge’s order prohibited Mr. Holten from going within two blocks of his former wife’s home and imposed a number of other restrictions. What it did not require him to do was surrender his guns.
About 12 hours after he was served with the order, Mr. Holten was lying in wait when his former wife returned home from a date with their two children in tow. Armed with a small semiautomatic rifle bought several months before, he stepped out of his car and thrust the muzzle into her chest. He directed her inside the house, yelling that he was going to kill her.
What saved Holten was not another gun, but a phone. She dial 911, then hid the phone. “The dispatcher heard Ms. Holten begging for her life and quickly directed officers to the scene,” the report tells us.
“For all its rage and terror, the episode might well have been prevented,” NYT goes on. “Had Mr. Holten lived in one of a handful of states, the protection order would have forced him to relinquish his firearms. But that is not the case in Washington and most of the country, in large part because of the influence of the National Rifle Association and its allies.”
I know that the NRA would argue that Stephanie Holten would’ve been better off had she been armed too. But exchanging gunfire with a lunatic does not guarantee success. And since her kids were present, tragedy would be all that more likely. Gun fanatics live in a fantasy world, informed by action movies, where the “good guy” always comes out on top. But in the real world, criminals aren’t automatically incompetent. Justice is a human construct, not a law of physics. In a gun v. gun confrontation, either party can lose. This is why people with guns are more likely to be shot — if I’m a criminal and someone pulls a gun on me, they’re my primary target. And of course, belief in the “good guys always win” theory promoted by the NRA causes people to take stupid risks.
The fact is that there are people who should not have guns. More guns is not the answer here, fewer guns obviously are. There are situations — and this is one — where meeting the NRA’s definition of “pro-gun” is in reality just pro-crime. Cory Holton is obviously scum. He can live without his guns.
And his ex-wife and kids would stand a better chance of living as well. A woman’s chance of being killed by an abuser increases by 700% if he has access to a firearm. That’s just a fact. And it’s a fact the NRA doesn’t want you to know, because they want to be able to sell guns and ammo to criminals like Stephanie Holton’s stalking, abusive ex-husband.
A woman’s chance of being killed by an abuser increases by 700% if he has access to a firearm.
WARNINGS: details of domestic violence throughout point #2 [and in a lot of the links throughout the article]; talk of all sorts of violence in the link at “decapitated someone”, including rape by an ICE officer.
DONATE to her legal defense fund on WePay: https://www.wepay.com/donations/178785
TWITTER page: https://twitter.com/#!/FreeMarissa
this page has a phone call campaign & more: http://sisterslead.org/?page_id=89
[…] This a travesty of justice. Tell the Judge and State Attorney that a woman’s safety is not a criminal act.
Call Judge James Daniel at 904-630-7154 and ask for Marissa Alexander to be released now
Call State Attorney Angela Corey at 904-630-7075 ask for Marissa Alexander to be released now
Please also visit our sisterfriend Antonia Vann’s blog, on what you can do to help Marissa Alexander.
[warning for brief mention of details of the assault at that last link]
direct email addresses [from the petition in the above quote]:
(holy crap i could have sworn i posted this but i just found it sitting in my drafts thing, damn i’m sorry)
Come ON people, I have seen posts about shopping get more attention than this petition. Please help get this message out there. Post on Facebook and other sites. This is a grave injustice.
A reminder of who Marissa Alexander is and why this is an urgent issue:
PARDON MARISSA ALEXANDER WHO WAS JAILED FOR 20 YEARS IN FLORIDA FOR TRYING TO PROTECT HERSELF AGAINST AN ABUSIVE EX-
Marissa Alexander was sentenced to 20 years in prison. Marissa is the victim here. Her husband beat her while she was pregnant. After yet another beating, Alexander fired a warning shot which traveled through a wall and into the ceiling. That shot saved her life. She didn’t kill anyone. Prosecutor Angela Corey did not take into account that Marissa Alexander had a court injunction against her crazed husband. She had given birth 9 Days earlier and was trained to use a weapon and earned a concealed weapons permit. Whilst the Stand Your Ground Law has been successfully used by other people in the State of Florida, that law didn’t apply to Marissa Alexander although she was a victim of Domestic Abuse.
l don’t think l’ve ever used my blog to support a cause before, l don’t think l’ve ever asked my followers to look at anything or sign anything or watch any activist videos or anything. You probably won’t see my do it very often because there aren’t a lot of things l support very, very strongly. However one thing l do support very strongly is VAWA or Violence Against Women Act. Not only because l am an lndigenous woman, but because domestic violence has effected me personally. As a child l had to watch my mother get violently abused constantly and even almost lose her life at times. My mother and l never recieved any proper help from the government, mind you we have never been tribally affiliated so our situation had nothing to do with lndian Laws. ln fact my abusive father would follow us anywhere we went, when we were living in the West side of Detriot he would break into our home and eat all of our groceries leaving us to starve for the next week because my mother could not afford any more food. When we lived in Toledo, Ohio he broke into our home and beat my mother severely leaving her deaf in her left ear. As a child my mother and l had to go from home to home and struggled just to find food, because my alcoholic father was never required to pay child support and we were never protected. l am not sharing this with you so you can feel sorry for me, l am not sharing this with you so you can feel sorry for my race. l am sharing this with you because no woman should have to go through what my mother went through. My mother and l supposedly had laws protecting us, so imagine what women who have no laws protecting them must go through. VAWA is not just about the lnigenous Woman, but every battered woman in America. No woman should have to live in a country where they are not protected by their government. My mother has gone through so much for me, to protect me, to save me. Why should women have to struggle just to survive in this country? They shouldn’t.
Please, please sign this petition.
lt means the world to me.
I am a fan of:
- Calling Chris Brown out on being a terrible human being who has done terrible things
I am not a fan of:
- Ignoring/giving nicer treatment to white men who have done the same shit he’s done
- Shaming Rihanna for her choices after the incident
I’m seeing a lot of all three on my dash since those photos of his tattoo came out, and two of these have to stop right now.
Day of Global Rallies for Marissa Alexander and Victims of Domestic Violence - June 24th 2012. In Your City or in Jacksonville, Florida.
Backstory: a few weeks ago, I accepted an internship with the DC Center for LGBT Resources. My father found out, threatened to kick me out if I did it, and basically raged on and on for a while. My flight to DC is on May 24th, and I’m pretty sure my father was going to keep me from catching it.
Just now, he came into my room and yelled at my brother for playing Starcraft II on my Dell. (I’m typing this on an old Macbook.) Then he threatened to smash my laptop, to which I replied that it was my property. The Dell was given to me by my university as part of my scholarship, and it is considered their property for a year until I start my second year there.
Upon me informing him of this, he grew enraged, picked up my laptop, and smashed it on the bedpost. The frame is broken, it won’t close properly, etc…
My father has had a history of violence with me, one that I don’t want to go into yet. However, calling the cops isn’t an option, since he’s the sole supporter of my family, and my mother can’t support herself; I also have three siblings.
Anyway, I need to get out of here. I live in Huntsville, Alabama. If anyone has any ideas or can give me a place to stay until the 24th, that would be most helpful. Thank you so much for reading this.
31 Republican men voted against the Violence Against Women Act in the Senate today. All 5 Republican women voted for it.
Today in sad phrases: “Voted against the Violence Against Women Act.”
Their “reason” for voting against this act? It would protect GLBTQ, immigrant, and Native women.
The Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) is, in normal times, an uncontroversial bipartisan law that was originally passed by President Bill Clinton in 1994. The law was intended to buttress protections within the law for women affected by violence by stiffening sentences for perpetrators and enabling access by women to civil proceedings, even when prosecutors decline to pursue criminal charges. According to the Wall Street Journal, VAWA is encountering resistance for the first time since its inception. Republicans are obstructing the law’s renewal on the basis that it now includes language protecting Native Americans, immigrants and LGBT Americans.
All eight Republicans on the Senate Judiciary Committee have voted against renewing the law, a move that has touched off a firestorm with Democrats. Vice President Joe Biden delivered an impassioned speech on the topic Wednesday at the White House. Attorney General Eric Holder called it “inconceivable” that passage of the law is up for debate. The Act was unanimously renewed in 2000 and 2005.
Senators Diane Feinstein (D-CA) and Jeanne Shaheen (D-NH) held a press conference denouncing Republican obstructionism with regards the the law on Wednesday. Conservative objections arise out of new stipulations within the law that “expand efforts to reach Indian tribes, include same-sex couples in programs for domestic violence and allow more battered undocumented immigrants to claim temporary visas.”